YOU’LL NEVER BE HER, AND SHE’LL NEVER BE YOU

Man, I compare myself a lot! Before I got into the blogging and Instagram game, I never really cared. I always looked at others pages and said, “wow, I really like how they/he/she edit their pictures”. And now that I’m trying clean up my stuff and make it all “magical and fluffy” (rolling my eyes), I have realized how much jealousy comes out of comparing! One day, I want this filter, the next, I want that filter!! The more profiles I see that I like, I want to change everything! And no matter how many minutes, hours, days, I edit, I seem to never meet what their pictures look like. And then I look at how many likes they have for a simple picture of … let’s say … their drink of choice at Starbucks! What the heck people!! You are more engaged with a picture of an over priced-over sweetened-frappe, than you are of my baby niece being born! WHAT. IS. WRONG. WITH. OUR. COUNTRY. lol! I’m partly kidding with that!!

@irisdayton

Last week, I attended one of my friends shows at this cool, little venue that’s kinda hidden within a neighborhood! While I waited for a friend to show up, I relaxed by the fire pit out front. I immediately noticed the girl across from me, because I follow her on Instagram!! If you know me, you’d know that I will talk to anybody! I have NO SHAME in pointing someone out, and letting them know that I like their work! So I did! I said “hey, are you this person _____? I think I follow you on Instagram and I really like your stuff!”. She was so shocked and thankful that I said something! I struck up a conversation with her and her friends, and when the doors opened they asked if I’d like to tag along! I thought that was so sweet of them to include me! So, I hung out with them for a while, waiting for my friend/friends, and quickly realized they weren’t as interesting as their Instagrams made them out to be! (Isn’t that a part of social media though?) The whole time I tried connecting with them, and was truly interested in their lives, and they acted like I didn’t matter! Half of that time, they gave me no eye contact what so ever! I thought, “maybe their just tired, maybe this is how they get to know people, maybe they are distracted”. Then, I admitted to myself, that they just aren’t interested in me. I spotted my friend, and some others I knew walk in, so I said, “nice to meet you guys, maybe I’ll see you around”! But truthfully, my friend could not have come at a more perfect time; I was running out of conversation fillers, hehe! I still follow that girl on Instagram, because I do love the way her pictures look! But, now I know, she isn’t as genuine as her posts make her out to be, which lessened my jealousy of her!

@hunterpremo

Anybody else wanna admit that they do this??! You compare and compare, but you never put yourself in their shoes! I guarantee, (and if money was on the line, you have a MONEY BACK Guarantee), there are people out there, prrooooobably the same ones that you’re jealous of, that look at you and are jealous too! I learned a strong lesson that night: I will NEVER be her, and she will NEVER be me! She brings something unique to the world, and so do I! And now that I have met her and know what she’s like, I’m no longer jealous of the life she seems to have! Now, I just look at her posts and see a good picture! The same goes for you! YOU bring something unique to this world, and juuuuust because someone has 65K followers and you don’t, doesn’t mean that lessens your uniqueness! A lot of that is fake! Fake set ups, fake advertisements, fake life! Am I saying that’s wrong, ABSOLUTELY NOT! I think it’s fun to have photo shoots and paid gigs and what not, but I strive to always be honest and let people know my life isn’t “magical and fluffy”!

@heytheresam

If you are in the comparison game too, STOP it RIGHT NOW! Take this opportunity to realize, NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE, can ever be who you are! They don’t stand a chance!

Oh, and p.s. God is your #1 Follower and Fan, and that is definitely enough for me!

And p.p.s. The pictures shown are just some accounts I really love, and you should go follow them!

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